Her good listener; me bad friend

We spent last night talking for three hours after our son went to bed. Our talk reminded me about how understanding my wife is. I feel like I can tell her anything. She's the only person I've felt completely open with.

One part of our talk was about how the idea of true friendship. We were discussing it because our pastor spoke about it last week at church. Through discussion with my wife, I discovered that I am really bad at being friends with people. I really don't have too many deep relationships with my guy friends. I just don't expend the energy anymore to really get to know people, except for my wife. I guess I'm just selfish and lazy; I'd rather make jokes when I'm with people, drawing attention to myself, than actually listen to people and learning about their lives.

I hope that I can learn from my wife to listen better. I got the talking thing down; I can't stop doing it most of the time.